This topic has been heavy on my heart for the last week or so if I am being honest. So many single friends are repeating lessons they should have already passed the test on. Having been there myself, I commiserate with them. Ahhh, the sweetness of actually getting the lesson AND passing that test!
You and I are destined to repeat lessons not learned if we fail to pass the test. The sad thing about that is the lesson is harder each and every time and so is the test, but when you realize you've been doing the same thing over and over and over again (can you say PATTERN?), then the Holy Spirit has this uncanny way of showing us what we need to do, and when the test rolls around again, we recognize it and we pass it. YAH!!! You did it!!! So you think you know all there is to know about that guy or girl and therefore you believe they are "the one"? Are you kidding me??? Just because you know all there is to know about someone does not make them "the one". Could it be this person you refuse to let go of and leave in God's very capable hands is a COUNTERFEIT? Yes, that's right, the Enemy's version of God's best for you. Sure, this is a great guy or gal, but great is not God's BEST. Friend, I urge you, if there is someone or something you've been holding onto, let him or her go. Release that great guy or girl to God and cease all communication with them. It's called a clean break and it is a very necessary thing. Sure, pray for them, but pray God's will for them (praying scriptures for them is best so you know your motive won't ease it's way in there), and nothing more. If they return, you will still have to seek God's advice as to whether it's a test from Him or it's a blessing from Him. I cannot explain how you know the difference other than you just know "in your knower". My dear mom used to tell me, "be careful what you pray for since you just might get it". It was a warning. College sweetheart and I broke up for a year and I was on my knees in prayer for that boy, well, said boy came around again and I just "knew" it was God's blessing. :) Back then, you could not have convinced me otherwise; in hindsight, it was never God's blessing. Sure, God allowed it to happen, but He had been my co-pilot vs me allowing Him to be my Pilot and walking away. That rearview mirror is always crystal clear. The choices I made as that young adult college student haunted me well into my 30s. Don't let the same thing happen to you. Don't let the choices you make today haunt you later in life.
How do you know that person is not the one? When you don't follow God's directives (and I mean every single one of them, even when you think they are archaic), then all I know is God won't bless mess. Sure, He graces us extravagantly, but don't you want His absolute best in this area of your life?
I'm thankful He got a hold of me with His loving Shepherd's hook and showed me the way so I would walk in it. This stubborn child of His finally surrendered everything to His choosing and I'm so glad I did. He blessed me with my husband, Gray, and other than Christ Himself, that has been the best gift.
Here's to His best!